The Past does not define us
Letting go and moving on………
Many of us have faced difficulties in our lives at some point, man or woman, young or old, child, teen. Traumas that have become very much a part our world. My question is why do some people seem to be able to go on and others get caught in a repeating cycle, that goes round and round like a broken record or stuck singing the same song over and over again. The repeating circle where we believe we made different choices, so why are we back at what feels like the same place.
I hope to give my thoughts and insights. Adjusted perceptions through my writing and art, sharing my findings on many topics relating to society issues and maybe, just maybe, I can help, even if its just one person find their light. Should they have found them selves in what feels like a damp dark hole of emotional pain.
I hope to cover a number of subjects from abandonment, domestic violence, teen dating, bullying, divorce and other subjects I deem important to address. Including ways to go through the pain, find peace, and that it is possible to heal. Moving forward to a better life because it’s a conscious choice.
I do not as yet have a doctorate, masters or degree in Psychology but will hopefully be addressing that in the fall as I go back to school. I will be sharing my journey as I travel adding theory to my life’s experiences. I feel I do have a grasp on aspects of reality that have entered my world and have pushed me to find answers to very difficult questions. Some answers were overwhelming and have taken time for my perception and understanding to change. A distorted world created in childhood can give to a troubled adult life, which in turn can lead to the loss of that beautiful light that we all hold inside us. Though troubles may have made the light a mere flicker in a dark world. It is possible to get that light back and to have it burn bright and bursting with energy it does however take time and work. Once the light is lit we are then able to see the beauty that is and has always been in our lives, we just forgot how to see it.
To break a cycle we have to first see that there is a cycle, it could be a cycle with in your own life time or it could be cycle passed down from generation to generation. In order to break it we need to become friends with it, respect it and understand it in its entirety before we can even start to break it down. This process in itself can be a very painful emotional journey. To some of us it’s easier to live in a state of denial to block the information and the pain, to not except or even want to see the reality. In some cases we do not even know we are blocking it, its as if the pain and the hurt is too much for our body and mind to bare. It switches that part of our brain off to protect us a survival mechanism for the reality we find our selves. We could also be witness to someone’s else’s pain maybe a child, parent or friend and we make a choice to not see it, as its easier on our own emotions. Maybe we don’t have the tools to help empower them to make their own changes as we are not sure how without alienating them or maybe put them in a state of fear that could send them into a frozen state of dispare. Many books I have read have given me answers to so many of these questions and I hope in my own words to try to explain many of them over the coming months and years as I grow and live the life I am chosing to live. A life of purpose and peace, free to be and do what was meant for me. I will also be sharing many writings and websites of friends who are also making a difference to better the world that we live in.
“I only ask to be free, The butterflies are free” Charles Dickens
A butterlfy I will be.................................................
